Divorce Help & Divorce Advice: Getting A New Pet

So what happens to the pets when it comes to the divorce? Some care so much about their animals that it could be devastating when the lawyers speak of them like property. The value of the pets that we place in our hearts can sometimes be hard when it comes to being apart. If you are in the battle of your lifetime and your spouse wants to fight dirty, they can go for custody of the pets.

They use the pets like leverage, much like children. The key to making out like a bandit in a divorce is to find what one person wants and then act like you need it or want it more. Usually the courts will give pets to the one who is more passionate or emotionally attached, which can be easily faked. Ex's go for the pets because they want to hurt you as much as possible. If you have any children or pets in a marriage you are more than likely to have an ugly divorce.

Like the children, the courts will ask what is best for the pet. If your spouse gets the home and the yard, more likely they'll get the dog. If the pet only knows that one home, they are more likely to get the pet because they have an emotional attachment to their secured home. However, some judges will go on the fact of who had the dog first. If you gave it to your boyfriend and then over the years became attached it, the attachment doesn't matter. Sometimes they look at pets like property. Who has the right to property? Well, the answer is, the one who owns it. They will not share the pet. This is because it's actually unhealthy for the dog. The dog will become confused easily and they won't have their security and may develop some emotional or aggressive behaviors.

Most of the time, the wife gets the kids, the house, and the pets. This is because they feel that the children need the house as security and the family pet needs the children for security as well, so they all go together.

If the judge can't think about the pet's interest, maybe you or your spouse should start acting properly in the divorce and instead of trying to get it all, give up the things you really don't want. If you don't like the dog, don't take the dog. If you don't want the cat, don't ask for it. Don't fight over something that is just going to hurt you both in the long run.

However, there are people who lose their pet and need to rebuild their life with a new one. There is always going to be hurt feelings about losing the original pet, but getting another one will help you deal with the loss, it won't replace the animal, but it will allow you to begin the process of moving on and letting go. You may need some time to think things over.

It's hard to replace a pet that you were so close to. It's like losing a child or best friend. However, if you get another pet, not just another dog or cat, but any type of pet that will comfort you and be there for you then the divorce will be a lot easier to cope with. If you are thinking about a new pet, you should go to the shelters. They have animals that have been rejected and hurt and they will bond with you. You are more likely to bond with them because you can understand their situation. You may find that a pet from the shelter will be exactly what you need.