How Do I Tell Him It's Over

You may be just as broken up over the impending breakup even as he will be. This is  natural. Your relationship has had a good run, but it has hit a wall - you can't see a future beyond where you are now. He may know this deep down; most likely so, but he may be hiding the feeling, but it's inevitable.

The breakup is coming. It's time to tell him it's over. Here's how to break the news to him without too much bloodshed.

Try these steps:

1. First of all - be mature.

• Although this me might not mean the same to you as he once did, you have to handle the breakup with respect.
• You don't tell him it's over on Facebook.
• You don't tell him it's over via text.
• You don't tell him it's over by leaving a message.
• You don't send your friend up to tell him it's over (unless he's a stalker).

2. Make the call today.

• He knows it's coming, but the sooner the breakup ends, the healing begins.
• He may avoid your calls. Keep calling. If he insists on not having the conversation, tell him firmly that you are doing this out of respect for the relationship you had and the good times.

3. Do the breakup in a public place.

• Once you get him on the phone, see if he needs closure in person. If so, section off that part of your day.
• You should not be the one, if you are doing the breakup, to get up and leave first.
• Do the breakup in a public place so neither of you will have the temptation to relapse into sex, which will only prolong matters.

4. Closure means let him talk.

• Let him explain and yell as much as he wants. He will thank you later for giving him the opportunity to have full closure.
• Answer all questions directly and honestly. Do not respond to any emotional breakdowns. You are now officially not his shoulder to cry on anymore. Listen like a friend, but don't condescend.
   

5. Do NOT call after you break up. It's cruel.

• After you tell him it's over, don't call him. Let him know that when he is ready to call you, you are open for a friendship (but only if this is true. If it's not, don't say that.)
• Do NOT call first unless you want to get back together with him. Anything else is selfish and you know it. You just want to see how far you can string him along, and it's not healthy or right.